My Heartbreaking Confession and Why I Believe It Will Help You Succeed

//My Heartbreaking Confession and Why I Believe It Will Help You Succeed

Well, I debated and debated if I should share this, because it requires me to be very honest and vulnerable with you. My goal is to always help lead you to success, so I believe it is my responsibility to share this with you. So here I am writing it now.

Before I share this with you, I ask you to have compassion on me, and know that I am only human.

Deep breath.  Ok.  Here we go.

Failure, doubt, loss, frustration….. ever experienced any of those?

This story of my life happened in 2012. You could say it was the darkest and lowest point of my life.

Here is the main reason why.

I had a business that I had built for the last 10 years that had reached yearly revenues of 3 million dollars and I was about to have to shut it down and file for bankruptcy.

Bottom line, I had failed. No excuses, no blaming the economy. I had made bad decisions that lead me to where I was standing.

There were so many consequences attached to this failure.

My reputation as being successful and having it all together, not just tarnished, but ruined.

My perfect credit score, crashed and burned.

My beautiful house that was home to my four children, had to be sold.

All of my pretty and fancy things, had to be sold to pay off debt.

Standing in front of the bankruptcy judge, as they looked at me with condemnation, I might have well been naked there in front of them. I had to leave my wedding ring at home, in fear that they would take it to pay off debt.

With all of that, I would ask myself these questions everyday:

How long would it take me to rebuild?
Would I ever be successful again?
With my credit score ruined, how was I ever going to be able to buy a home for my children again?

I’ve been labeled all my life as an overachiever, well, I am not sure but I don’t believe “bankruptcy” fits into that category.

I would cry at nights, not knowing how to handle this type of defeat. I had never experienced depression before, but I had this dark, heavy cloud that hung on my shoulders everyday.

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My father allowed us to stay in his rental property, for free. While I was grateful for his help, I also felt humiliated to have to be in this situation.

Although my children were young and didn’t really know what was happening, they could feel the weight on my shoulders, and would sit next to me and hold my hand, as I wondered how I was going to bring us out of this hole?

I had another business that was in jeopardy of closing also, and I knew that my only hope for redemption was to transform that company into a profitable business so that it could help feed my family.

I immediately connected with a mentor, someone who I believed could help me come out of my situation.

It was difficult, but I pulled myself out of my pity party, and told myself, “I am going to put this all on the line one more time, do everything this mentor tells me to do and pray to Jesus that it works.”

So that’s what I did. I’ll never forget my first 60 days in the coaching program, my revenues increased by $10K. This was huge for me and a step in the right direction.

I didn’t stop there, I continued to take action, I implemented with speed and kept seeing the results.

Little by little, step by step, I was climbing out of that dark hole.

In fact, two years later, I was purchasing a $650K building for that business and a year after that, we purchased a 3500 sq ft home for my family.

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Why do I tell you all of this?

Because, failure happens. In fact, it’s a part of life. I didn’t want to believe this at that time, I wanted to beat myself over the head with judgement and guilt.

But, every time we take a chance in business, there is a chance it could fail.

And the thing is, I know I am not the only person who has walked in these shoes. I’ve talked to multiple women entrepreneurs who have been in the spot I was in, or who are currently in that spot.

I tell you about my failure to let you know, that it wasn’t my destiny, it was just a path I had to walk to get me to where I am now.

At one point or another, we all experience some type of failure or setback that can try to keep us from reaching our God-given purpose. But I believe it is our responsibility to reach down deep inside and pull out whatever we have to keep us going forward.

In fact, I have a coffee cup that reminds me of this everyday. It says, Never Give Up, Ever.
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But, I also know that I would not be where I am today, had it not been for my mentor.

Having a mentor changed my life forever, which is why I so confidently help women become my clients.  I know that I can help take them out of desperate situations, or just to the next level of success, more seamlessly than one could do it on their own.

I know if I had not made that decision to invest in a mentor, I would have taken the long road back and it would have cost me so much more pain, heartache, loss, money, time, I could keep going……

I don’t know if entrepreneurs really know the full impact of having a coach can make on one’s business.  Do you believe there would have been a Michael Jordan without a Phil Jackson?  No.  It’s the same principle.

Having a coach to guide you, direct you, show you, help you, keep you accountable makes all the difference in the world, and I am forever grateful for my mentor.

I don’t know where you are right now, and you might be reading this, thinking what does this have to do with business or conversion?

Today, I want you to know, that if you have experienced failure or if something is holding you back, this is not your destiny. Your destiny is to succeed, so dig down deep, connect with someone who can help guide you toward success, and don’t give up! Ever!

I also want share my free training with you, because I believe it could help your business.  Click here and join my free conversion training, because success is just one good decision away.

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